Solve Unsupportive Spouse Problem!
A new Cash Flow Show raving fan just sent me an email asking “How does one deal with an unsupportive spouse?”
As I typed out my reply to her I decided that this is a great topic for a blog post!
Is Your Partner Supportive Of Your Business?
If your husband or wife is not supportive of your home party plan business, it is not good!
Profit = Supportive Spouse
Chances are if you are making money your spouse will be supportive.
Having said that though, I realize that it really is not that simple!
If your spouse is unsupportive, chances are you may not stick with it long enough to make a profit.
How To Start Communicating With Your Spouse
Since your party business takes place in the home it will impact everyone who lives there, so communication is key to success.
Chances are you have already tried that and did not get very far or it did not go well! Here are some tips to improve spousal support:
- Ask what she/he is really concerned about.
- Practice the 10 second rule.
- Share how you feel, not what you think.
- Think about how can you alleviate the real concern of your spouse.
- Negotiate a solution to the real concern.
Legitimate Concern About Spouse In Business
We could guess what your spouse’s real concern is and then throw out a bunch of solutions but chances are that would not be dealing with the real problem.
What is his/her REAL concerns?
My guess is that they will be legitimate and most likely will not the first thing that s/he tells you when you ask.
Listen to the answer and then share for only 10 seconds and ask another question…. repeat over and over again — forever! That is the only way you will get to the real concern.
Plan your conversation by thinking about how you really feel….
Are you lonely, scared, feeling unsupported, fearful, nervous, unhappy….. Then tell them and end it in a question like this:
- I am really excited about MyFantasticCompany business and the potential it has for us and am feeling scared that I do not have your support.
What is it that concerns you about me and MyFantasticCompany business?
Do not put any responsibility on them.
No one can argue with your feelings. Try to refer to the business and the results of the business as a family or joint endeavor (our business, when we earn the trip, our profit will…)
Unsupportive Spouse? Why?
When you practice that scenario over and over again you will be able to find out the real reason why your spouse does not support your home party plan business.
When you get to the real concern you can address it and work out a solution.
Without your spouse’s support you will always feel like you are being knocked down on your path to success!
The Key To Getting Spouse Business Support
The key to your spouse’s support of your home business will come with patience and acceptance.
- Give your partner time, be patient, practice the 10 second rule and make a profit!