Stop Sabotaging Success

Are you sabotaging your own successes? Surprisingly, there are just as many people with a fear of success as there are those with the more well-known fear of failure. Are you one of them? Many people have a fear of success or maybe they are sabotaging their own ability to achieve personal goals.

What Does Sabotaging Success Mean?

According to Webster’s dictionary ‘success’ is a person or thing that prospers. ‘Sabotage’ means to willfully and maliciously destroy or impede. ‘Willful’ is defined as with intention, or headstrong.

The implication here is that we do it on purpose. At first most of us will object to that idea. I have to say that, since we have choices in life and the fact that we can choose to do or not do something, sort of carries out the definition. Even while most of us do not decide to willfully destroy or impede our prosperity, we can and do make choices that improve successes and also diminish success as well. Therefore, the implication is that we do in fact choose to sabotage ourselves.

Are You Sabotaging Yourself?

The simple answer here is that you and I can choose to be prosperous and to succeed and we can also choose to sabotage our successes. So how do we know if we are sabotaging ourselves? The fear of the unknown is common. Many people deliberately impeding their own progress based on their fear of the unknown or of change.
Here is a simple test to see if you may be suffering from fear of success. See how many of the following situations can you identify with.

1. I read lots of self-help books but can’t seem to improve.
2. I go to seminars and conferences frequently and nothing changes afterward.
3. I am insecure about money or making a lot less than I should be making.
4. I have a job that doesn’t allow me to express my real talents or true abilities.
5. I expect perfection of myself.
6. I try to be all things to all people.
7. I frequently start projects and have a hard time finishing them.
8. I feel guilty saying “no” to others.
9. I frequently feel as though I am not doing enough, even though I am doing all I can.
10. I have a low opinion of myself, even though other people think I am smart, funny, and capable.
11. I usually settle for less.
12. I worry a lot.
13. I’ve started to lose hope that I will ever live the life I dream of living.

If you can identify with 5 or more of these warning signs, you may suffer from fear of success. That fear may be leading to self-sabotage. You are not alone. Everyone has some fears, so why do we doing it?

Belief Systems

Most of us act on the belief systems that we were given in the past. Here is an example of what I mean. A person in my life when I was in my late teens was Rita Zehner. During the years I lived with her, she was a mother-type role model to me. Rita Zehner was good to me. She taught me her philosophy of life which I carried with me until my late 40’s. Rita’s philosophy was as follows: When we are born, we are all given a ticket. Like getting on a train or a plane, when you are born you get a ticket for the ride of life. You either get a working ticket or a riding ticket. Once you were issued your ticket you could not and did not trade it in for another. No one ever moved up to first class when given a working ticket. If you got the working ticket you worked hard for every cent you ever earned. Nothing came easy and you were always working your butt off. The people who got the riding ticket never worked for a cent. Everything came easy and they did not have to lift a finger. Rita said that she and I both had working tickets and were going to be stuck working hard till the day we died.

I lived that philosophy for 30 or more years of my life. I believed it, repeated it, and told other people that I had the working ticket for life, and that was just the way it was. And that is exactly what happened. I made decent money and worked my butt off for every cent I earned. I was always looking for success and it never really came. I worked extremely hard physically, mentally, and emotionally for every cent I earned. I could not find the solution to change in my ticket.

You Can Succeed

The point is that I wanted success and believed it to be impossible. This lack of congruency makes it impossible to be successful. I was certainly sabotaging my own personal success. We are who we are today based on who we were yesterday. Who we are today will determine who we are tomorrow. Success is a choice. You can choose your future success by making better choices today and begin to change who you were yesterday. The first step is to re-program your thoughts.

The Secret Law Of Attraction

In the book Think And Grow Rich, written in the 1800’s, Napolean Hill said: “People are creators of their own misfortunes because of their negative beliefs, which are picked up by the subconscious mind and translated into reality.” The Secret, written in 2000, teaches that positive thoughts attract positive things to your life. Deb Bixler says that your thoughts predict the future. If you are not happy with your life, the first place to start is with your thoughts. It is an inside job because of the laws of attraction; your positive thoughts can and will attract positive things to your life. Negative thoughts will attract negative things to your life.

Live An Attitude Of Gratitude

Incorporating positive affirmations into your life will change your life. We make millions of choices a day and think over 60,000 thoughts a day. What you were yesterday does not have to be who you are tomorrow. I have come to realize that my role model Rita Zehner was wrong. I can trade in my ticket and I have chosen to stop sabotaging myself. You can do it too. Things can and will change for you when you focus on the good in life. Focus on what you have and what you want so that you will attract more good to you.
We all have a lot to be grateful for, and here are some affirmations that reflect that:

• I have a full life and I am grateful for it.
• I am positive, proactive, self assured.
• I am honest, open minded, and rigorously honest.
• I am grateful to be making a difference in the lives of children through health and cash flow solutions.
• I am grateful to have my health and a warm house.
• Everything good involves risk, and commitment will get me there.
• I am the most committed person I know.
• I am at peace with the process of life, because I am creating my future.

Create your own affirmations. Your thoughts predict your future, so start writing your thoughts and begin to predict your future. As you begin to incorporate your positive affirmations consistently, you will change who you are today. As you change you will begin to change your future and stop the process of self sabotage.

Remember this:

• It is more fun to be happy than it is to be miserable.
• Success is infinitely more exciting, fun, and joyful than failure.

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You can choose to be happy.

You can choose to be successful.