Direct Sales Training With MindAware’s Dana Wilde
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This is part 2 of the CashFlowShow – Direct Sales Radio interview with Dana Wilde of The MindAware.
Deb interviewed Dana on the radio in June of 2011. The Train Your Brain interview has been transcribed into text for the hearing impaired.
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DEB BIXLER: Welcome back and thanks for joining us tonight. We are here with a good friend of mine, Dana Wilde. Dana is the mastermind behind The Mind Aware, Train Your Brain program.
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Before we went to break, we were talking a little bit about how sales and emotions and our brain all kind of tie together. We get these “predetermined areas” of our life that sometimes we just can’t change. How do you make this change, Dana? How do you start to train your brain?
DANA WILDE: Right, terrific question, Deb. I’ll tell you, let me give a little bit of overview of how the pieces go together and then it’s really easy to see how change can happen. So let’s use an example, if you find somebody who is a shy person. If I’m a shy person and I’ve got this belief about myself in the unconscious mind, I’m just going to act on that automatically. What I mean by that is if I’m a shy person and I walk into a crowded room, I don’t have to look up on a list of my personal character traits, “Gee, how does this make me feel?” I don’t even have to think about it, because unconsciously my palms start to sweat automatically, my breathing starts to get shallow, my heart beats a little faster – all of this happens unconsciously. Because we don’t have to think about those things any more when we have certain character traits about ourselves, just like when we learn how to pick up an object or we learn how to walk. We don’t have to think about it anymore; it just becomes part of who we are.
So how we usually do it in this culture is if we have a character trait that is something that we don’t like about ourselves or something we want to change, we usually, after we have an experience, we start that conscious Chatty Cathy self-talk that sounds something like, “Oh, I hate that I’m clammed up every time I go in a crowd. Why can’t I be more outgoing? It makes me crazy that I get so nervous. I wish I could just speak or say something – oh, stupid, stupid!” You know, we just sit and beat ourselves up. So after we give that conscious talk, that of course fuels up a lot of emotions like what we were talking about before and then boom! It cements that idea back into the unconscious mind, so the unconscious mind is forever remembering that this is the character trait we have.
Now I know you like statistics.
You asked me a statistic a minute ago before the break, and I’ve got another good one for you now. When we are thinking with our conscious mind, we are having sixty to ninety thousand thoughts a day, if you can imagine, like that’s a lot of noise in our head going on all day. But the most amazing statistic to me is that 96% of the thoughts that we have tomorrow are the same thoughts that we had today and the same that we had yesterday – so every day we keep basically thinking the same thought. So 96% is a huge statistic, but I think it’s easy to see why people’s lives kind of stay the same, because we keep going through this basic pattern of talking to ourselves this way.
DEB BIXLER: Reinforcing what we believe. We just keep making it stronger and stronger.
DANA WILDE: Exactly – and so nothing changes or it changes really incrementally. So, you’ve got three choices if you want to make change. Basically you can change it at the unconscious level and that means hypnotherapy or self-hypnosis – fantastic methods, you know, very effective and wonderful, but I personally in Train Your Brain talk about other methods. I don’t go into those methods.
Then the second way is you can do at behavior level. This is what most people do; this is really popular. This is called “I’m going to force myself to do something different.” [Unintelligible - 00:20:58] You know this one, Deb?
DEB BIXLER: The old “fake it till you make it”?
DANA WILDE: Yeah, exactly. [Laughter] The thing that is unfortunate about it is that if people use it, they usually have to do with diet or exercise or something like that. We can force ourselves to do something for a while, but first of all, it is uncomfortable, it’s not fun, and it does not make change easy. Second of all, a lot of times, we revert back to our old unconscious programming of how we actually see ourselves, you know, so it’s kind of like a boat on automatic pilot going on one direction and we white-knuckle it, grab the steering wheel and kind of turn a different way, but we will revert back at a some point. I think you know what I mean by that, right?
DEB BIXLER: Oh, yeah.

DANA WILDE: The last method—and the method that I recommend—is making change at the conscious level. So using the same exact technique we used to program ourselves in the first place. You know, the last 10 years, with all the brain imagery that has gone on, we have learned a lot about the brain, and one of the things that we have learned is that it’s pliable, it’s changeable, and it’s just sitting there, ready and waiting for your instructions, and so we have just go start giving it different instructions. We learned these beliefs through repetition and emotion and saying things a certain way, and that’s exactly how we unlearn them.
DEB BIXLER: Could you give us an example of making a change on a conscious level so that it’s a little more clear?
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DANA WILDE: Yes, absolutely. Making a change on the conscious level to train your brain would be if that person – let me use the example of the shy person in the room again. So the shy person in the room has the belief that she is shy, so she is not going to change that right this red-hot minute; that’s stored in her unconscious mind. She is going to have the reaction in the room. She is going to walk into the room, her palms are going to sweat, she is going to feel uncomfortable, she is not going to be able to talk – that’s not going to change this red-hot minute.
But the place she has power and the place that she can change is at that point in the conscious, where she is having that thinking conversation with herself and she is beating herself up and saying, “I’m such a horrible person. This is so bad. Why can’t I be different?” That’s where it needs to stop and that’s the best place to shut down that programming and shut down that talk and start to change it.
I can give you some instruction, like the perfect language and how to do a perfect mantra and that type of thing, but even if the person could just soften a little bit and say, “Okay, well, I didn’t feel totally comfortable in this room this time, but I’m getting better every time and I’m starting to feel good and I’m very comfortable with people I know better. I can see that people like me and I’m easy to be around.” So, start saying nice things to ourselves instead of negative things. Does that make sense?
DEB BIXLER: It makes sense. And you said like just start gradually – because I’ve heard, I’ve talked to people about this kind of thing and they will say like, “I can’t do that because it’s a lie.”
DANA WILDE: Oh, yeah, that’s a real common one. That’s why we have some methods called “transitory statements” on the Train Your Brain CD’s. There are a few different ways to do transitory statements, but the one that I can share with you right now that would make most sense in this context is what I like to call the “keep the image but change the message” transitory statement.
What this would be, with example of the shy person, is let’s say you’re in direct sales and you’re shy. You might be giving yourself messages like, “I’m too shy to be really good at this business” or “I like the products but I’m too shy to be a good sponsor” or “It seems like all the people who are really successful are extroverts” and all of this type of negative messages about success. Well, if you are shy, you are not going to now just start walking around, giving yourself an affirmation saying, “I’m an extrovert, I’m an extrovert.” I mean you are just going to feel ridiculous; it’s going to feel totally stupid to do that. And so, we recommend doing a transitory statement, and what that is, is you keep the image but you change the message.
So this person’s new mantra could be things like, “I’m shy but the customers seem to like my style so I sell a lot anyway” or “I’m shy but I attract really good team members,” or “I’m shy but the presentation fits really well with my style and people like me.” So that “but” in the middle there is like the ticket to the whole thing. You don’t change your image; you can still be shy but you are going to have a different outcome with that being shy, if that makes sense. I can also tell you, I know we are going to break again soon, but if you want I can give you a really good example of the mantra that we used when we went to the Million Dollar Club that you know will kind of explain the whole works too.
DEB BIXLER: Right. It does make sense to me. And when you were talking, you were using the word “but.” I often say that positive-focused people don’t use that word because anything that came before the “but” is negated by the mind, so is that why you put that there?
DANA WILDE: Exactly right, yep, Deb. I know it, and this is how I knew that this would be such a great interview because I know that we are totally kind of the same mindset on this stuff and you really, you know, feel the same way and preach the same things that I preach, and that’s exactly right. The point is, the mind works in a certain way, and if we can just – we’re not going to change how the mind works, but we can start to use it to our advantage so that word “but” does negate everything before, so let’s start using that to our advantage.
DEB BIXLER: Right, right – but!
DANA WILDE: “I’m shy BUT I attract good team members”, so now it doesn’t stand in your way anymore to being successful.
DEB BIXLER: Right, excellent. So we have about two and a half minutes before break, so if you want to give an example or two, we have time.
The MindAware Affirmations – Mantras
DANA WILDE: Well, I’ll tell you my story, because I think sometimes this sums up what I mean when I’m talking about doing mantras or positive affirmations and that type of thing. When I started in direct sales and as I formulated the MindAware system, I had the same experience as a lot of people. I started doing parties, and in my first few months I started sponsoring some people. My helpline came to me and said, “You know, you have a chance to beat the record; you could be the fastest rise to an executive director.”
So that’s a personal attainment where you have to sponsor 15 people in six months, and that was the fastest it had ever been done – six months. I thought that was pretty cool, but I felt really embarrassed, you know, kind of humble or shy or something, kind of going like, “Hey, I’m the fastest line” so I felt stupid to kind of tell anybody that I was on track to maybe do that. So instead, when I went to my parties and I started talking to people about business opportunities, I said, “This is the fastest growing team in the history of the company. You should join today because this is the fastest growing team in the history of the company,” and we would say, “This is the fastest growing in this part of the country.” I mean, if I said that, of course, everybody I brought on my team, they didn’t know any better, so they said it to everybody. At the time, keep in mind I probably had four people on my team.
DEB BIXLER: Right. [Laughs]
DANA WILDE: It was a fine way of like deflecting this complement that I was taking personally. I just kept saying probably ten thousand times, “This is the fastest growing team in the history of the company,” and low and behold, 19 months later…
DEB BIXLER: You were.
DANA WILDE: Yeah, fastest growing team in the history of the company, that’s how it works.
DEB BIXLER: It’s really funny because I always said, “This is the largest, most productive team in the eastern region.”
DANA WILDE: Wow, that so cool. It’s just the exact same thing.
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DEB BIXLER: Right. And, you know, in Direct Sales Recruiting University, I always teach how to grow a team and part of it is to brand yourself, like why should they join your team and not someone else’s? “Well, we are the fastest growing team in the eastern region.” That’s my line.
DANA WILDE: Isn’t that great? I love it. That’s so classic. Yeah, that’s perfect. That’s exactly how it works, too. And, of course, it just was the focus mantra that propelled us to that level.
DEB BIXLER: Right, we are going to take a break now, and when we come back we are going to talk more on how to make this work in your lives.
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Dana is a brain trainer, a mantra mentor, network marketer, home party plan superstar, and founder of The Mind Aware, a company providing training and support for home party plan, direct sales, network marketing entrepreneurs who don’t want to sacrifice time in order to be more successful. She is the creator of Train Your Brain, which is a unique and successful training method designed to make things easier for network marketers and direct sellers and put them on the fast track using proven mental strategies.

